During pregnancy and even after you’re bombarded with different parenting advice from different people; from complete strangers, people in “mom groups”, family and friends.. I have learnt NOW to take all that with a grain of salt!
So here is the advice I am giving my self this time.
DO WHAT WORKS!
Every single child (baby) is not the same! One thing that may have worked for another may not work for yours. Trust your gut do what feel right your motherly instinct is stronger than you know. At the end of the day if your baby is happy, healthy, loved and fed you are doing more than enough.
“IS THAT NORMAL?”
“GIRL, Get off the internet”. Stop asking is that normal? Google doesn’t know your baby Mom groups don’t know your baby and honestly all that will just make you paranoid. If you are really that concerned call the local health line or your doctor cause 99% of the time that is “normal” but concern is also “normal”.
The last thing I would tell myself is to “slow down”. Stop rushing each milestone. Sit back and relax the time they are so little goes by in the blink of an eye. Embrace the chaos, fold the laundry later, live more, enjoy each moment like it’s the last time because eventually it will be. Those sleepless nights won’t last forever your baby won’t want to be held forever— cherish it a little longer.
I wanted to VERY BRIEFLY cover the topic of “birth plans” and why they are important to me.
First of all a birth plan is just a plan, it is not a guide and step by step for your labour and delivery you can not plan for that and in the moment so much can change— but you can prepare.
I find creating a birth plan to be an effective way to have my team and everyone there supporting me on the same page and have an idea and understanding of my goals to make my experience a little easier.
This is a great link to help you create your own birth plan.
In just a few days I will be telling people I am due NEXT MONTH — the count down is on!
Everything seems pretty perfect right now. Addison is sleeping amazing despite teething, the sun is shinning, our house renovations are finally wrapping up and I can finally get a start on the nursery.
Life is good.
I just wanted to take a short moment while Addison and I eat breakfast and write a little bit of a reminder. I know with a newborn & two under two things will get hectic but when I think life is at its hardest I’ll have this to read— easier days will come, I won’t always be sleep deprived, starving and grumpy.
Addison has always been a pretty easy-going baby in my opinion. With that being said there has been nights I thought I wouldn’t make it to morning or days I counted down the hours until bedtime, days I wonder how myself and my relationship made it out of. We have only been out of the first year for a short time but I feel like if you can survive the first year of motherhood you can basically take on anything life throws your way.
For the next two months I am going to absorb every second of life and embrace all that I can before time slips away from me again, days just fade together and I blink and I am sitting here with a one year old and a two-year old.
*Note to myself and any other Mamas having the hardest day, week, month or year ever —
This time is only brief, it will get easier, so much easier. one-day you will look at your independent toddler and wish they still needed you a little more because each day she will need you a little less.
This may be a bit of a “babble” post but I believe one day I will need it.
When I was pregnant with Addison someone once told me “enjoy every second of your first pregnancy— you will never have another pregnancy like your first.”
Were they ever right!
This pregnancy is so different then my first in just about every way and to be honest I think I may be enjoying my second pregnancy a little more.
Lets rewind to 30 weeks pregnant with Addison a typical day would start with me waking between 10-11am after being up ALL NIGHT binge watching Netflix. I wouldn’t say I did too much during the day I relaxed maybe went to the grocery store, cleaned up the house a bit, took a nap I would check over the nursery to make sure I was “prepared” for her arrival and add things to my “need to get” list. I was most defiantly prepared with stuff and we had the cutest nursery waiting.
I relaxed, I did nothing and I put myself first.
Fast forward to present time 30 week pregnant with my second little lady a typical day start around 6:30am or when ever Addison decides. My life is so scheduled I grab Addison change her diaper, get her breakfast ready. I try to get myself cleaned up and throw a load of laundry on while Addie eats, once she is finished I spend the rest of my morning cleaning and playing with Addie. Just like that its 11am and its time to get Addie settled for a nap. I take full advantage of that 2-3 hour gap in the day and just completely relax and sneak in some sleep. Once she is up she has lunch I get out of my PJs’ that I spend all morning in, I have a quick bite to eat, I get Addison cleaned up and we head out to do our errands or prep dinner.
5 o’clock rolls around quick and Wes is home we have dinner as a family, clean up and go for a walk and here we are at the end of the day time to get shower and baths done. Addie’s bed time routine begins and the day has come to an end. Wes and I spend a couple of hours at night relaxing, watching a show or playing a game. That is about as much alone time we get together in a day so finding time for our selves and each other can be a struggle some days.
I am not close to being prepared for baby. Her nursery is still being built I have boxes of her clothes I still need to wash with nowhere to put them! I am not really stressing like I did with my first pregnancy. With Addison I needed everything ready by 25 weeks— I am not to sure why.
I have gone into this pregnancy with a lot less time on my hands.
I have so much more energy and my days are more full. I get to see the beautiful reward at the end of pregnancy as a daily reminder of what is to come. I am preparing for her in completely different ways then I had before. I am researching postpartum healing, breastfeeding and latching I do light exercises I am preparing my body this time something I wish I did during my last pregnancy but I was miss informed last pregnancy I thought labour was the only hard part and for me that was the easiest.
It is true “There is No Pregnancy Like Your First”.
Each pregnancy is so different, wonderful and hard in it’s own ways. If I could pass any pregnancy advice on to someone who is a first time mom or pregnant with baby number 10 or anywhere in between it would be to enjoy this time embrace your body it’s growing a miracle.
I have received so much positive feed back through Instagram direct messages since launching my blog— more than I had anticipated.
I have always had so much to say and share I thought a blog would be such a great way to investment my free time and I appreciate ALL the support.
Creating a blog has not been anything short of work. When I committed to this new hobby I wanted to make sure it was going to be successful for myself. It was very important to me that I found an outlet from motherhood something I could do while my babies are sleeping and this is perfect not only do I get to create from home, incorporate photography and design but I get to share my experiences. I have lists upon lists of ideas I’d like to share or talk about— any idea that pops into my head I am writing it down.
“Addison and My Grace”
So many nights after Addison was in bed Wes and I spent just talking about what the heck I was going to call this blog.
One of my most received message about the blog is “OMG! are you naming your next baby Grace?” the answer is simple “No I am not.” although the name Grace is absolutely beautiful it just isn’t the one we have chosen. If you follow me on Instagram you know we have decided on a name for baby girl so I am not surprised this question is being asked.
“So why Grace?” It just spoke to me this blog is about me keeping my grace and composure – moving with poise and power while trying to keep it all together “(good luck to me!)”. “Graceful” is also one of the definitions of sweet baby girls name. It just fit like a glove so I went with it.
I love everything essential oils can do for us— so when I’m sick I take full advantage of their benefits.
I diffuse 3 Drops of RC, 3 Drops of Lavender & 2 Drops of Lemon.
I diffuse “Young Living” essential oils in a “Dew Drop Diffuser”.
This blend of oils helps with “respiratory care”, germ fighting and relaxing.
If you can stomach this one I swear by it!
Take one clove of garlic and chop it into tiny pieces, fill a 2 oz glass with almond milk, drop the garlic in and shoot it back.
My Dad has been doing this since I was young and the man is never sick.
I believe the garlic is antibacterial.
I take one small table spoon of turmeric powder, 2 table spoons of honey and the juice of half a lemon I mix this in my tea pot and stir it all together I then add the lemon wedges into the tea pot and let it steep for about 5 minutes.
Low Levels of Turmeric During Pregnancy Are Considered Safe. … Based on the available evidence so far, it is perhaps safest for pregnant women to consume low quantities of turmeric – for instance as a spice to season foods such as curries and soups – but preferably not as a high-dose supplement.
At the first sign of a cold I get my humidifier going to help with congestion.
I got mine off of amazon and I absolutely love it.
I never thought when I finally was ready to launch my blog this is how my first post would go.
I thought my first blog post would be a lot more glamorous but is motherhood and pregnancy ever really that glamours— I mean you’re more than likely covered in spit up, food or boogers at some point throughout the day.
If you follow me on Instagram you may have seen a post that I posted today about days like today.
Honestly as hard as today was physically and emotionally what made it worth all the while was the love.
My needy baby needs me! She needs me because I am her comfort I help take away her pain I am what soothes her to sleep at night and all it took was one smile to make me remind myself of that.
Sometimes in the moment it can be so easy to forget that your child needing you, whining and be incredibly clingy is all out of the love they have for you.
Days like today happen.
Days when my baby wakes up cutting a tooth AND with a cold.
Days where I can’t even put her down.
Days when I wish I could just take all her pain and give it to myself.
Days where I know I won’t be getting out of my pjs and a “bun” is as good as my hair will get— not even a cute bun either like a full on inspired by Miss. Trunchbull “bun”. These are the days that make us stronger.
The days we cry, the days our house falls apart, the days we wonder if we can live off a granola bar and water.
These days make for the nights we go to bed as survivors.
So a huge shout out to all the Mamas out there getting through each day who wake up each morning making the most selfless act; we are warriors.
Also a huge shout out to @tulababycarriersfor making these days a little bit easier even if it was just for a few minutes. “(During pregnancy, your body is undergoing lots of changes so it’s important to check with your medical professional before babywearing while pregnant.)”
Thanks for reading!
I can’t wait to post more and check off all my ideas I’ve been brain storming over the last few months— I have so much to share with you.
This blog has been a work in progress for quit some time and honestly still is— so stay tuned for whats ahead cause even I have no idea where this journey will take me.